Hometown: North Carolina (Currently stationed in Montana)
Married for 2 years
Renae is currently going to school for Veterinary Medicine in hopes to become a Veterinary Technician. Colin works with Security Forces in the United States Air Force.
Renae and Colin met in elementary school and became high school sweethearts. Right after basic training and tech school, they got married. They just celebrated their 2 year anniversary on December 21st.
Security forces is one of the toughest jobs at the base they currently live on. Communication for these two are limited, as well as the time they get to spend together at home.
Renae: “I am often left alone, with our two dogs counting down the days for his return. If I’m lucky, he would come home after 3 days, but it’s usually 5.”
The distance has been the hardest part of their relationship. The longest they have ever been apart was while Colin attended Tech school. During that time they were able to talk to each other and FaceTime regularly.
Renae:“I loved seeing how happy and excited he was to be an Airman. Now, he has changed. And I have changed too. It has taken a toll on us and I’m not going to lie about this. I’ve been going to the doctors for depression and anxiety. At first, I was embrassed to go, and I still haven’t told the one person who is just as important to me… My mom. It is HARD! And any military spouse knows that. Although, he has never been deployed, I have to spend so much time alone… it’s hard living two separate lives sometimes. I often wish we could be like “normal” couples and grow together. It is HARD! Depression has taken over many times throughout our relationship. Sometimes I feel so helpless and wish he never enlisted.
I know I’m not alone in this feeling. A lot of spouses suffer from mental health when dealing with this lifestyle. That is why we need support from family, friends, our significant others, and other spouses.
What helped me a lot was making friends. Moving to a new area and not knowing anyone, plus being as shy as I am made it even harder. It’s good to make friends though. To have someone to talk to when you feel like you have no one. My counselor helped me too. Going to talk to a professional in mental health was a key point in helping our relationship.”
What advice do you have for other military couples?
Renae:“Communicate. That is THE best tip I could give anyone. Talk about your day, feelings and lives. Find something that will keep you going until your spouse returns. One of the reasons I started blogging was because I hated being alone. Blogging helps me connect with other people while my husband is away.
The military is a tough job and it takes a special kind of person to do it…. as well as being a spouse. Support is what we need to give and to get.
Colin still has 4 more years left in the military. We are going through this one step at a time. I do have things I like about the military lifestyle, but we have to push through the rough parts to enjoy the good parts. It’s not a simple life, but it’s a pretty good one.”
Thank you Renae and Colin for sharing your love story!!🖤